Do you believe that having kids can certainly pull you down from the race of life, career, achievement, and growth of your own?? You are a smart, talented, outgoing, and career-oriented woman and soon pressurized by the family to get married and later on to have kids. For some women, this is not less than a tremor. Do You feel, youll not be as successful if you planned kids or your body will be out of shape?? Do you feel, youll not be able to live and enjoy life like before after youve had kids??
But for us a woman, having a child is Gods greatest blessing we can have. Seeing your kids grow, their smile, their cute babbling voice, it cannot be beaten by anything else; it brings the worlds entire happiness to that one small, single moment. Singing rhymes with them, teaching them their first words, hearing those cute words. Mothers biggest delight is when you hear that Mommy word for the first time, it's an awesome feeling.
Sometimes, it feels like the sand is slipping from our hands, our kids wont be the same ever, theyre growing like weeds. The phase were experiencing now wont be available after a few months. Every age has different changes and youll be surprised to see how fast and what all they learn from you, from the TV and from outside. Once they start walking, you dont know which direction theyll run even in a blink of an eye. Once they start talking, theyll suddenly come up with a new word and youll keep scratching your head off. Sending them to school for the first time is so painful for both of you. Just cherish each and every moment you spend with them. Theyll not be the same, theyll be gone of the house and you wont even realize that you now have an empty nest. Spend as much time as with them, give the best to them you can. Take a lot of pictures of them at different ages; I always look for my baby pictures but I never find any. Itll be a delight to see them when theyre grownups.
In this new era, women are struggling to follow men and working along shoulder to shoulder and neck to neck, they are earning and helping the households, in some areas they are doing even better than men. While you spent, countless hours at work, marriage, and having a baby is out of the question for career-oriented women. Women of the modern age want to stand on their feet before selecting their life partners. Even after they marry, having a child is sometimes delayed for years and later if its planned, a working couple might end up having just one baby. Planning a second child is like, having a nightmare for them. They dont want to end up doing the same diaper changing and cannot even think of becoming a night owl yet again. They get so busy in their own busy lifestyle and handling their first borns chaos.
Canada is so blessed with parents who own busy schedules; though both the parents work full-time but adjust their timings to help each other while giving their best to their kids. Getting a paid house help in this country is not everyones cup of tea, people do the house chores on their own, they vacuum, mow the lawn, drop and pick up their kids to and from school, take them to their evening classes, and yet at the end of the day, put them to bed with the big smile and read them a lovely story. They dont like to sleep late on the weekends, instead get up early and take their kids to play in the park, bike with them or choose to hike or swim with them. You can see many women strolling their new-born, along with her other kids, with one of the biking, one of them walking, and even a dog on a leash. Sometimes, I get amazed to see their energy and way of thinking. Even when the weather isnt supporting, theyll try and get active indoors with kids and just give them all the time they can.
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Well, its not like they dont party or have a glass of wine after a super tiring day at work and when kids are all asleep but everything roams around the family. I know a family whos had 3 girls and recently had a baby boy. The other friend had their 3rdbaby boy a few months ago. Some are staying at home moms and some are full-time working women. You can see parents running around with kids for their different after-school classes and they also own 2 dogs and a cat. Hats off to these families, how they manage everything and in the end, theyre one big happy family. Women like to go on their lady's night and even go for girls only trip once or twice a year but that doesnt stop them from being a super mom, they can handle everything, but of course with the support of their husband and family. They just know how to balance both worlds. Hats off to the working Moms who raised and have rewarded society with some good human beings!!!
Dont be scared of increasing your family size, if youve got house help, some family members, and some good friends around, youre blessed. Just remember, the time lost now can never come back again. Its better than repenting later on and then there will be nothing in your hand. Its time to react now; you just have one life, enjoy everything life has to give!!! Well, you got married to have kids, otherwise, there are many whore having a living relationship. Its true that your responsibility increases as you have kids but once theyre school age, you can focus on your career again.
To conclude, I would say, if there is no medical condition, dont delay in having a child or to have another one. God forbidden, if there is any medical condition, there are many new treatments available that you can choose from or even attempt to adopt one, there are many deserving children who are waiting to be adopted, you can enlighten someones life. My intention is not to hurt anybody but to bring the fact that children are an important part of our society and its you who makes and raises them, you can be aSupermom, dont be afraid of becoming one.
Let me know what is your opinion about it, I was 23 years old when I had my first child and I love being a mom of 2 boys and a dog, how old were you when you had your first child and how your life changed after having a baby?? I will be glad to hear all your comments.