With all the hatred, disbelief and crimes going around the society and the world, it’s next to impossible to trust somebody, specially a mere stranger. We often teach our children not to talk to any stranger, not to eat from anyone etc, etc. We’re scared if someone knocks at the door or if somebody asks for any help, we’re scared for our security, dignity and especially for our kids.
But has the world reached this level where if a genuine stranger is in real need and we wouldn’t agree to help them?? I would like to share my two recent experiences last month, I’m not sure how many of you would agree with me but let me know your views.
Before the long weekend of September before the school began, an unknown woman knocked at our door at around mid-noon. She was holding a screw driver and mentioned, she was from Canada Post and she was asking if we have any tools, she wanted to use them for the post box. I was alone with my 2 boys, hubby wasn’t at home. Initially, I hesitated to open the door but then, I said, ok we have some, let’s check. My 11-year-old followed me to door and heard our conversation; he ran to the basement and got the entire tool box for the woman. My son walked out to show her the box to ask which one she needed; she requested if he could also go with her to assist, as she needed help. My heart was sinking, one part was saying, we should help, other was in disbelief, we didn’t know her and my son wanted to help her all out. Before, we opened the door again; I peeked out of the window and made sure that she was from Canada post, her car outside was from Canada Post.
But still, as a mother, I wasn’t fully convinced; my son was with a stranger and with all the tools that could do anything to my child. My 2 year old was distracting me as well, it was his lunch time followed by nap. I consoled him, took him in my lap and ran to the window to see what was happening. This time, I saw the woman, my son and another man who was trying to help them. I wasn’t still satisfied; I quickly changed my clothes and held my little one to the post box to make sure what’s been happening. By this time, the man had left, he couldn’t help. There was another gentleman who was walking by and she requested if he could help her.
I stood there till they were all done, the problem was, and the lock of the post box had broken. The lady was kind enough to fix it for the people who were anxiously waiting for their urgent emails, as it was a long weekend so she’s off and she wanted to make sure that they were ok. Though I was terrified somewhere inside all the time but at the end, I was glad that we came out to help out and everything went well. My son learned a good lesson as well.
Another incident, 2 weeks ago while we were shopping in Superstore, we’re at the Photo Studio when a lady approached the people there to ask if they have a computer she could use for some personal work. They said no, they don’t. I told her, she could use my mobile if she wants to use internet, I have enough data and if it could help her. She was quite disturbed and mentioned she had to do some urgent email transfer for which she needed internet. She was constantly receiving phone calls which she didn’t receive coz she was busy surfing. My personal security was at stake as she was using my phone, I should’ve said no. but couldn’t. She opened TD website and kept trying, something wasn’t working and she couldn’t finish what she wanted to but she thanked me gracefully to allow her to use my phone.
There was a time when we never closed our front doors, everyone around the neighborhood knew each other, there was no chance of crimes or such facts, and people were nice. But in this changing world due to some selfish people(criminals), everyone comes under that suspicious radar; it’s almost impossible to trust anyone now. We meet many unfamiliar faces, it doesn’t feel like old times, and it can never be. There are many factors which puts us on risk.
This doesn’t mean humanity is abandoned and we’ve to be emotionless. We can stay alert and still help someone in need in that mere moment while staying alert. For example; if someone in the bus asks you that he urgently needs cash for hospital or something, you can ask him to call his family to transfer money to you and once you receive a message with deposit in your bank, you give him that cash in hand. If he’s genuine he’ll agree and if not he’ll walk away.
It’s all about experiences, if I had a bad experience I would’ve shared with you but this time my experience wasn’t that bad and was positive, that’s why I’m sharing it to boost, trust in the society.
Let me know what you think about this, I would be glad to hear what you have to say on this, your views??